My name is Yvette Marie. I am the mother of two amazing, strong and challenging Neurodiverse kids.
That in itself can produce challenges, but along this journey, I have learned that, like so many other parents, not only are my kids Neurodiverse, but so are my husband and myself.
Our journey into learning about differently wired brains began with my second child. From the very beginning we had challenges, and with those challenges came advice, suggestions, more challenges and more advice and suggestions.
It didn’t take long for things to go off the rails and before we knew what hit us, our lives were in complete chaos.
This chaos led to tremendous stress, confusion and many trying decisions on how to handle things. Sad to say, many of those decisions, guided by the advice of well-meaning professionals and friends, led us down a path that brought us to our knees.
We spent years researching, reading, getting evaluations, therapies and diagnoses.
Finally some things began to click, and with those clicks came the awareness that some of the things I struggled with personally were not quite the same things everyone else struggled with, like following complex directions, managing multi-tasking, reading long texts, and… this was a big shocker… social emotional understanding.
It was a shocker because I worked in a highly social industry, had many connections and was considered ‘easy to get along with’ and ‘friendly and outgoing” by my peers.
So how could I have social emotional challenges?
Well, that’s a long story and I will address much of that in my blog posts, but for now I will tell you that it is pretty common for Neurodiverse kids and adults to become adept at something called ‘masking’.
Women tend to mask more than men, but as you will learn, when it comes to Neurodiversity, there are many exceptions to the vague and complex rules.
My personal diversities are ADHD, Dyslexia, Executive Function Disorder, Giftedness and CPTSD (complex post-traumatic stress syndrome).
I will share our journey, often in great detail, however the details about my family’s specific diversities are not discussed at length here because I feel it’s important for them to decide when and with whom they would like to share.
One of my many quirks is that I love to research anything regarding the topic of human nature. I love digging into research papers, following links and getting lost in the rabbit hole of scientific studies.
The upside of that pervasive need to know is that I continue to find links, connections and evidence for how we become who we are and how our environment and choices lead us to evolve into who we will be. This has led me and my family down a path of learning, growth, healing and thriving from a neuro-diverse perspective.
Join me on my journey, I’m always happy to have the company of those who dare to live a life of flexibility and flow.
Follow The Thought Wrangler and Parenting The Extraordinary Blogs for relatable, real life stories, information and comfort on this journey by subscribing to receive the latest blog articles fresh from the keyboard!
That in itself can produce challenges, but along this journey, I have learned that, like so many other parents, not only are my kids Neurodiverse, but so are my husband and myself.
Our journey into learning about differently wired brains began with my second child. From the very beginning we had challenges, and with those challenges came advice, suggestions, more challenges and more advice and suggestions.
It didn’t take long for things to go off the rails and before we knew what hit us, our lives were in complete chaos.
This chaos led to tremendous stress, confusion and many trying decisions on how to handle things. Sad to say, many of those decisions, guided by the advice of well-meaning professionals and friends, led us down a path that brought us to our knees.
We spent years researching, reading, getting evaluations, therapies and diagnoses.
Finally some things began to click, and with those clicks came the awareness that some of the things I struggled with personally were not quite the same things everyone else struggled with, like following complex directions, managing multi-tasking, reading long texts, and… this was a big shocker… social emotional understanding.
It was a shocker because I worked in a highly social industry, had many connections and was considered ‘easy to get along with’ and ‘friendly and outgoing” by my peers.
So how could I have social emotional challenges?
Well, that’s a long story and I will address much of that in my blog posts, but for now I will tell you that it is pretty common for Neurodiverse kids and adults to become adept at something called ‘masking’.
Women tend to mask more than men, but as you will learn, when it comes to Neurodiversity, there are many exceptions to the vague and complex rules.
My personal diversities are ADHD, Dyslexia, Executive Function Disorder, Giftedness and CPTSD (complex post-traumatic stress syndrome).
I will share our journey, often in great detail, however the details about my family’s specific diversities are not discussed at length here because I feel it’s important for them to decide when and with whom they would like to share.
One of my many quirks is that I love to research anything regarding the topic of human nature. I love digging into research papers, following links and getting lost in the rabbit hole of scientific studies.
The upside of that pervasive need to know is that I continue to find links, connections and evidence for how we become who we are and how our environment and choices lead us to evolve into who we will be. This has led me and my family down a path of learning, growth, healing and thriving from a neuro-diverse perspective.
Join me on my journey, I’m always happy to have the company of those who dare to live a life of flexibility and flow.
Follow The Thought Wrangler and Parenting The Extraordinary Blogs for relatable, real life stories, information and comfort on this journey by subscribing to receive the latest blog articles fresh from the keyboard!
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