There’s a hole in your bucket!
Water is pouring out and your newly finished floor is flooding!
You anxiously try to plug the hole in the bucket to save your beautiful new hardwood floor, but in your panic to save your floor and stop the flow of water, you don’t notice that there is even more water pouring into the bucket from the top and spilling over the edge.
But it’s no wonder you are focused on the hole in the bucket, everyone is telling you that the hole is the problem. It’s clear, isn’t it? It needs to be plugged, and now!
If you don’t fix the hole, and fast, you will never stop the water from flooding your floor. Right?
It is plain to see the flooding, and you are freaking out because you can’t get that darn hole plugged, There’s just too much pressure coming from the top. So, you try harder, maybe you even call a friend to help.
You don’t understand WHY it’s getting worse.
You are now desperate and exhausted.
The water has filled the room and is out of control. You are ready to throw the bucket out, because obviously it’s broken and the hole is unfixable and there is no way to stop this flooding.
And that is exactly what happens when parents, caregivers, therapist and doctors focus on the behavior instead of what lies beneath… the overwhelm coming in from the top.
Hi! I’m Yvette Marie a Thought Wrangler (an intellectual nomad looking for understanding and hope in all things). I created this blog space because I believe Flexibility and Flow in Neurodiversity is not only possible, but necessary for living a full life of health and wellness.