DEFIANT DISORDER (ODD/PDA) OR DEVELOPMENTAL DELAY?

 Does this sound familiar?
     “I don’t care if he has Asperger’s/HFA, he needs to learn he can’t just say what he’s thinking!”
      “ADHD is no excuse, she needs to pay attention.”
      “You need to be more consistent. You should make a chart with rewards and punishments.”
       “My kids ate what I put in front of them or they didn’t eat at all.”
      “You shouldn’t let her do anything until all of her home work is done.  If she complains or has a fit, then take away devices until it’s done.”
       “He needs to do as he’s told, you just don’t command enough respect.”
       “Reward the good behavior, punish the bad.”
     It would be surprising if you’d never heard these things because they are very typical of parenting advice given by both other parents and by professionals.
     To some extent, they are correct… IF you have a child/teen who is completely Neuro Typical (NT), meaning a kid with no developmental delays at all.

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