Knowing your weaknesses and fears is one thing, acknowledging them and sharing them with those you trust is another. That kind of work requires incredible bravery especially from a neurodiverse perspective.
Trust can be challenging for many people, but it can be especially tricky for those of us who’s brains are wired in a way that makes us more anxious.
Vulnerability in particular requires a great sense of trust, and for many people who have spent a lifetime struggling to feel at ease with others, this can be a very difficult hurdle to overcome, but one that is definitely worth the work.
Being vulnerable is the only way to truly get to that deeper connection that we all crave in one way or another.
The interesting thing about vulnerability is that it allows us to speak into a space that has been forgotten and connect with people in a sincere and profound way. But vulnerability requires willingness and a sense of safety and knowledge that we can keep our hearts safe.
If we don’t truly connect, we feel isolated. And this may be the root of why so many Neurodiverse kids and adults feel so alone in the world. Connection is more challenging for us, because our perceptions and how we experience the world hasn’t always been understood by others. We see and experience things very differently and often with more intensity, thus we are more prone to anxiety.
It’s when we open to the tender spaces where we are vulnerable and scared that we are able to make connections that are meaningful. And if you struggle with loneliness or feelings of isolation, then you know just how hard this can be.
Trust isn’t easy, but it is worth the risk. It does take practice. When it comes to knowing who to trust and when, we may need to seek advice and assistance from others with more wisdom in this area.
Trust also requires us to be flexible and accepting, something that can be particularly challenging for the Neurodiverse, but with practice and patience, it is very possible.
Keeping our vulnerabilities protected and hidden is the very thing that makes us feel fragile, and keeps our true selves hidden. It can be difficult to accept, but the same thing that we think protects us actually keeps us in the cycle of hurt and deep pain that is isolation.
It is important to remember that our darkest stories tell of the wounds that brought us to this moment. Sharing how we got here and allowing people in, is no doubt scary, and requires a deep fearlessness of the spirit, but it is the only way to true connectedness, love and freedom.
The stuff we are walking through right now, will one day heal. It really will. If we choose to find the beauty (purpose) in our pain, and allow ourselves to openly and wholeheartedly relate to each other, then the healing can begin, the love spreads and true power is found. And that is really powerful.
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Hi! I’m Yvette Marie a Thought Wrangler (an intellectual nomad looking for understanding and hope in all things). I created this blog space because I believe Flexibility and Flow in Neurodiversity is not only possible, but necessary for living a full life of health and wellness.